Couples Therapy

Same Fights Over and Over

Needs Go Unmet

  • Will I ever be heard? Understood? Seen?

  • Will I ever feel cared for, nurtured, or important?

  • Will I ever feel loved in the way I need it?

  • Things just don’t feel the same anymore since we had kids.

  • How did we even get here?

  • Why is this getting worse the more we talk?

  • See, there you go again…

  • No real “repair”

  • The hurt and resentment builds

Loss of Connection

  • Walls go up

  • Talking less

  • Less vulnerability

  • Less prioritization of the relationship

  • More and more stuck

Using Emotionally-Focused Therapy, we can:

Identify the Negative Cycle

Let’s demystify your fights- you’re probably having the same two or three fights over and over again, with different words. Is there a push-pull or push-push dynamic? What are your true attachment needs?

Learn how to turn towards one another in the smallest ways. Learn how to make your partner feel loved with a simple “mmhmm”. Learn how to respond with less defensiveness and more curiosity

Learn How to Listen to Each Other

You’ve been through a lot of life together. How has each of you changed? What are your shared and individual values? What do each of you really need from the other? We’ll work on rebuilding that foundation of friendship and admiration.

Get to KNOW Your Partner Again

Fight Better & Find Repair

Learn how to fight WELL and repair, leading to a deeper bond than you could have ever imagined. Voice your needs more explicitly. Learn how to love your partner better and hear their bids for that love from you.